Friday, February 05, 2010

What's Wrong With This Picture?

I woke up early this morning, fixed breakfast for my husband, and ate with him...all the while a nagging question kept banging around in my mind.

"Mom, why is it when I fold these dinner napkins the pretty side is always on the wrong side?"

I chuckled a little, and admitted that I have wondered that very thing many, many times! I would buy a certain paper "dinner napkin" and every time I folded it, it seemed wrong! I would think: Surely this isn't right! All this time, I just thought it was ME thinking they were printed wrong. Not until my daughter-in-law asked me about the same thing that had frustrated me for YEARS did I really give it much thought. When one of my family members "questioned" the "dinner napkin" is when I realized I hadn't been wrong in my assessment.

With this nagging question from my "daughter" going through my mind the last few days, I now wonder why someone hasn't done something about getting the print on the right side of the napkin. After all, this "dinner napkin problem" is now affecting someone I love! Surely someone has contacted the "dinner napkin company" and told them they printed the napkins wrong! Even though I get frustrated when I fold them, I've never asked anyone if that was the way they were suppose to be. I've never called the company to see if they printed them wrong. So, they keep printing them, because no one really cares to bother with such a "little matter". After all, aren't we just going to throw them in the trash when we're finished with them? Besides, if I fold them carefully, and place it on the "right side" of the plate, everyone will think "that's the way they're suppose to be"! Breathe deep... Sigh....Ahhhh....I got that one figured out! Relax...sit back....it's really no big deal!

Along with this "no big deal" situation, there are other questions that are banging around in my mind today, and they ARE a BIG DEAL! These questions are now affecting "my family"....those I have been a part of all of my life!

Questions like:

Why is "the Church" allowing the "things of the world" in? Then they go on and make this statement: I thought we were suppose to live a godly, holy, separated life!

In a frustrated voice a young pastor spoke, "I was told this is "the Church" and what it teaches will save me, yet some do not treat it as "the Church"! Is this just "another club"?

Concerned parents poured their hearts out: "My kids are being pulled by those who no longer believe it like they use to! What can we do?"

Frustration, frustration, frustration! The "dinner napkin" just isn't coming out right when I fold it!!!!!

We are living in perilous times, and "the Church" has always been bombarded with questions about our "separated lifestyle". People have always wondered and asked...

Why we do not cut our hair.

Why we do not wear pants.


Why we do not go to the movies.


Why we do not wear make-up.


Why we do not wear jewelry.


Why? Why? Why?


Through the years it never bothered me that they asked those questions! They were not professing to be an Apostolic believer. They had not "repented of their sins" and had them washed away through "baptism in Jesus Name". They had not received the "gift of the Holy Ghost with the evidence of speaking in tongues as the spirit gave them the utterance"! They had not experienced the "power that would change their life". They had a right to QUESTION! It didn't bother me to answer these questions. Some sincerely wanted to know why the Church held a standard of "separation from the world". I loved it when people would ask me about these things, because I knew they were seeing a difference in me and maybe, just maybe they would see God in my life. They might even be drawn to what it was that was making me different!

On the other hand, it does bother me when those "within the Church" start asking questions...not because they haven't heard it taught...because most of them have, but because they are seeing those who "have left the truth of separation" and have caused confusion in the minds of our young. I can deal with the questions from the outsiders, but when those who are suppose to believe it "just like I do" turns from what we've always known is right causing questions in those in "my family" it bothers me!

They might have even taught... that it was "a sin for a woman to cut her hair for it is her glory".

They might have even taught that... a lady should not wear pants....for it is "an abomination in the sight of God".


They might have even taught that... we should "abstain from the things of the world".


They might have even taught... "when you receive the Holy Ghost your wants change" and you will not "crave the things of the world".


They might have even taught... "you will receive POWER to overcome SIN"!


They might have even taught that... "separation from the world" is part of salvation!

They might have even taught that... you can "live in this world", but not be "a part of this world".


Yes...some have taught it, and believed it, but something happened and they started reasoning away the truths they "use to love". Now, they throw questions. Now, they quietly walk among us touching our young, wooing them into the "web of deception" putting questions in their minds, maybe not with words, for they know they would be discovered, but by their lifestyle changes. Yes, it bothers me to know this is taking place as I write today. My heart is heavy because there is a "deception" that is DEADLY to our walk with God and to our Apostolic heritage of truth that has invaded us causing some to return to the things of this world.

So, today I am asking myself some questions....

What am I going to do about it? Am I going to just keep "folding the dinner napkin" thinking nobody notices the obvious?

7 comments:

Virginia C said...

Outstanding blog. Let's me know we're not alone in these concerns. Thank you for stepping up to the plate to voice your (our) concerns.

Katrina Holmes (Tina) said...

Sis Elms, I have been bothered by these very same things in recent months. The attitudes towards holiness are changing and it is bothersome. I read a comment on facebook the other day by some one who use to attend the church I grew up in, questioning a young lady about her wearing makeup. She said "since when do UPC'ers wear makeup" and the response was " since we've been allowed to make our own decisions" They began to make light and joke about it. Made my heart heavy. There was no sense of being seperate from the world or a desire to be pleasing to God, Her whole attitude seemed to be so unaware of the reasons behind holiness seperation. Sorry about the long post, but your post did resonate with me, especially when, as you said, our children and grandchildren are being affected. My heart hears you on this one! Thanks for posting.

Michelle said...

Wonderful post Sis Elms!! Keep on reminding us, we want our children to grow up right in this wonderful truth! If anything, we need to raise the gates not lower them! There is enough junk in the world we have to see every day, we sure don't want that junk in our church!

Gayla said...

This is an outstanding post, Sis. Elms. We can't be silent. We have to keep teaching our young people to hold to the standards and keep separate from the world. Lately, Matthew 24:22 has been more meaningful to me.
"And except those days should be shortened, there should no flesh be saved: but for the elect's sake those days shall be shortened".

Tracie Smith said...

Thought provoking!

Keith and Carla said...

I'm with you on this!!! Well written!

Anonymous said...

So good and true..my exact sentiments and as a mother and grandmother it is killing me with what I am seeing and hearing. We can NOT look like the world or act like the world!!! Holiness and truth are inseparable!
Make-up, jewelry, trimmed hair, tight clothes, movies,and the list goes on and on and it seems to be accepted in so many of our churches, among our leaders even on our platforms. We have pastors that are now allowing all kind of things and even posting about what they are doing and wooing so many of the younger ones their way. My husband and I are praying more than we have ever prayed for this situation to turn around. Where is the Lighthouse?
So thankful for a district official's wife of the UPC that I am a part of to feel this way and being willing to post knowing you are opening yourself up for critcism!!! Love you, Sis. Elms
Shirley Patrick